love。arranged marriage

i guess is not too young for me to have an in-depth meditation about marriage.

and i realise,

at every different age range

we see it from different angles with different conclusions and expectations

before leaving my college,

i did have nice chat with my roommates

there's once i asked her opinion about blind date

is not exactly blind date

but i just asked her,

if your mum wants you to marry someone you'd never seen before,

will you follow compliantly?

" if from religion aspect, financial condition and personality,

he meets the basic requirement,

i'm fine with it. "

she answered without second thought,

as if the answer is branded in her mind since very last time

i got a very big shock at that moment.

she was a very sincere Malay Muslim

but after all, i don't expect any 90s will accept arranged marriage

i didn't show the surprise on my face

when i was alone

her words keep echoing in my head

i tried to dump away all worldly thinking

and  i gained a new insight

for most of us from this generation

we believe only love we would step into marriage

but still ended up divorce 

never realise we are actually building our love in imagination

perfecting the partner you're dating

only by stepping into marriage the bad habits disclosed

love fades and breaking up is the only way

so why would it be weird or fogeyish if someone accepts arranged marrriage

and through marriage

they know each other, cherish each other through hardship

love grows and relationship lasts?

it's hard to justify right and wrong.

but i guess i started to have new ideas and understanding about arranged marriage...